so, we have this phone ordeal or something…i dunno…i am not the one with such a problem. So, when my roomate asked if i had a phone to bring or something and if it had an answering machine, i told her that i had a phone to bring, but it didnt have an answering machine. So, it was decided that i would be the one that would bring the phone. So then, we we finally moved in, i brought my phone (w/o an answering machine) and i was fine with that. but then, when she moved in, she saw that it didn’t have an answering machine, and that it was on my side of the desk (which could be easily fixed with a longer cord. DUH!) But her mom found it better if she had an answering machine or something…i dunno? So, when her parents came up for this Freshman convocation thing (the day before school), she bought this $40 phone with an answering machine and it was cordless. Whopdie do. And then, a couple days later, she’s like, “oh yea, you owe me or my mom $20 for the phone. ” And i was like, “ummmmm…that would be a NO. I didn’t agree on anything at all, and besides, i am fine with the one that i had. I can just use my cell phone for messages. it’s not that big a deal.” But it turns out that i told her, “OH SURE, I WILL PAY YOU HALF FOR THE PHONE.” (UMMM…no, i didn’t. i’m not that stupid. why would i do that in the first place? i’m not going to get any return on my money because when we finish up the school year, the freakin’ phone is going to be yours.) So, she’s all ANAL, (like normal) and wants $20. that would be a negative. there is no way she’s getting money from me haha. and what really pisses me off is that i have done nothing wrong, and she’s mad at me FOR NO REASON. I mean, it would be fine if i did something offensive or unethical, but no, i didn’t. I even tried to be like, “since i’m not going to pay you, i wouldn’t mind buying a phone router (which can hold two phones on one line), ” but she was like, “there’s no point to have two phones, and i was like, “well…ha…you’re not getting money from me.” (except, i didn’t have that tone …i was very reasonable. ) i ‘m done
(this is about my roomate)
Unfortunately bad college roommate stories are par for the course. Let it go and maybe she will, or else she'll steal your mail for months (but that is another story.) I say get the router anyway especially if she's going to get bitchy about you using the phone.
Hmmm. I'll bet she voted for Bush! Or at least her mom did.
I feel empathy for your situation. But what a wonderful opportunity to hone your interpersonal relationship skills! Do let us know how this situation with your roommate goes.
Posted by: Leah on September 9, 2003 03:33 PMI am so glad you have a link to your blog now. You are getting so much wonderful advice, even if it is unsolicited. This is how I would handle it:
advise the roommate that any purchase needs to be authorized before it is expected to be a shared expense. If she does not agree to that---go out and buy a $5000 flat screen plasma tv and tell her you will gladly give her the $20 for the phone, once she has given you $2500 for the TV. At the end of the semester, she can have the telephone of which you paid 1/2, and you (or John) can have the plasma tv that she contributed half.
You go, girl! When you can tell me what you did wrong, then I will agree that you should feel bad that your roommate is mad at you. Without having done anything wrong, you are right!
Posted by: Kathleen on September 11, 2003 10:03 PMActually, i believe that after you finally responded to my inquiry despite ignoring it for days, and you told me you werent paying, we talked about it and so forth, and I accepted the fact and moved the fuck on. And whatever you would like to let your little friends believe you did or didnt say is fine with me b/c i wouldnt even be responding to this shit if it werent about me. However, just for the record, you did agree to pay ahead of time to pay and you also said the day before my parents came when i told you we were buying it the next day that you would pay half (didnt openly offer it, but I asked and told you the approximate price-you were on the phone with an apparently selective memory). It makes sense that you would not pay for a phone that I would be taking back at the end of the year (just asking that you dont change your response after the fact), and the router BS makes absolutely no sense given that we would have one phone line and the ability to use only one phone at a time. Not to mention that the first time you and I talked in mid July, I DID ask if you had an answering machine, and I still had the paper on which I recorded your responses...you said you did. I distinctly remember this because my mom told me that she would buy it if you did not have one, but whateva. All good, you say you dont like controversy and then you post this message and link it to your profile, obviously wanting to bring back the drama. I aint even trippin pimpin. WOW, well i thought it was completed business as well. While the hostility of this message reigns, I have been wanting to tell you something but have been trying to hold back on it. The smacking of gum, licking of peanut-butter fingers, eating loudly with your mouth open and burping loud is really bothering me. If you could please limit the output of those noises by remembering that someone else is in the room it would be fantastic! :) Also, when i am participating in conversations with my friends, could you please not jump in them. I am not the only person who has noticed this routine, and it feels like i cant even hold chats with them without you joining. Anyway, I wish I didnt have to write this, but you felt the need to express your thoughts of the situation, so you know...guess I'm just doin my part. "G'day"
Posted by: (your roommate) on September 12, 2003 09:13 PMIt seems that you both have interpersonal relationship issues - hone away. Also, your communications would be ever so much more effective without the vulgarities.
Posted by: Leah on September 13, 2003 05:04 PMI agree with Leah...you use such abhorrent language, people stop listening to what is being said and focusing on the unpleasantness involved.
Posted by: Auntie Rita on September 15, 2003 09:37 PMI was just making sure that "you" was referring to Kelly and not to me, for I do not want to be known as the one who uses vulgar language. I do not stand for it at all. I think it is wrong.
Posted by: Courtney on September 15, 2003 10:05 PMMy Niece,
That disapprobation was directed to the one with a penchant for the "F" word. Your Aunt Rita's comment was directed also to that same person. I know its a dynamic of youth to go trendy with vocabulary, especially with "bad" words so that everyone will know how adult you are. But communication is lost when the listener starts to concentrate on HOW something is said rather than on WHAT is said - again, these words of wisdom are not directed to you, dear Courtney.
Posted by: Leah on September 19, 2003 01:56 PMwhat the fuck?. who gives a fuck about vulgar language. People should be allowed to say what they fucking want, without having to listen relatives from God knows where bitch and bitch about people behind their back. Your roomate was in the complete right here, face it you were wrong. Just because you think you're perfect and your twat doesn't smell, is no reason to post shit about your roomate on the web. If you have an issue with somebody fucking tell them. Believe me, I would love to jump in my car and drive to college station to air these ideas. You see, life is about compromising and if you aren't willing to make concessions you will never be able to make it in life. Chances are you will remove this post because it uses langauge that encompasses: fuck, shit, ass, bitch, bean-flicker, donkey show, ass-licker, cunt-sucker, bottle humper, pillow-biter, cockweasel, carpet muncher, e-hoe, cum dumpster, clit tickler, biatch, anal bucaneer (savvy), bumblefuck, bunny-boiler, crack snaker, dickface, fuckhead, dicksmack, shitbag, shithead, drama queen, fuckface, felcher, jizzmopper, ass speluncker, muff sniffer, sausage jockey. They're just random organizations of letters that your church, your pope, have told you are wrong. I think I made my point.
P.S. Allah is my compass
Posted by: bad motherfucker on October 2, 2003 11:40 PM